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The Wisdom of Hair

Barbara Vey -- March 18th, 2013
Kim Boykin

Kim Boykin

Today’s guest blogger won this spot with a winning bid in the Brenda Novak Auction for Diabetes, Kim Boykin. Kim loves to write fiction stories about strong Southern women, because that’s what she knows.  She is an accomplished public speaker and serves on the board of the South Carolina Writer’s Workshop. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her husband, three dogs, and 126 rose bushes.

Be sure to check out her book, The Wisdom of Hair.

The Wisdom of Hir

When was the last time you made a drastic change in your hair? Why did you do it? Was it just a whim? Or was there a catalyst like a milestone birthday, a breakup, a new job?

Growing up in a tiny town in South Carolina, I don’t think I was fully aware that women came into my mom’s beauty shop to change their lives, but that’s exactly what happened. Even if it was just for a few hours, they dropped their cares on the doorstep and entered a safe place where they could say anything they wanted, knowing my mom would love them up AND give them a fabulous hairstyle. So when they left, even if it was just for a few hours or forever, they really had changed their hair and change their lives.

That’s a reoccurring theme in my debut novel The Wisdom of Hair (Berkley Books,) the story of Zora Adams, a young woman who finds her calling in beauty school, has a secret romance with the wrong guy, but finds her HEA with the help of a wonderful community quirky women. I didn’t intentionally plant the idea, but it is true.

We have a big job interview? We clamor for a new do. A bad breakup? Off with our hair! And when things are good, really good, subconsciously changing our hair seems like bad juju. There are times the changes we make in our hair work and times they don’t, but the fact is sometimes,our hair is the ONLY thing in our lives that we can control.

I’ll be honest with you, I hadn’t cut my hair since I sold the book. Don’t get me wrong, I’d trimmed it and colored the heck out of it, but things were going so great , I wasn’t looking for a change. But then about five months ago, my world got rocked in a terrifying and horrible way I can’t talk about without hurting someone dear to me. Before that, I’d been so adamant about keeping my hair the way it was, but I found myself looking at this young woman’s haircut and thinking, I’d really like that cut. And bangs.  AGAIN.  Would it have altered my circumstances? Crickett, my hairstylist, said an emphatic, NO and saved me from myself.

And she was right. Hair stylists listen to us, what we want in our hair and in our lives, our hopes our dreams, our greatest fears. My best advice to anyone contemplating a big change, a new do? Trust the force. Trust  the people who fix our hair and change our lives. Trust in the wisdom of hair.


Kim has gracious offered to give away 2 of her books today.  One to a lucky commenter and one for the commenter’s hair stylist!

Bottom Line:  I have an urge to run to the closest salon and get a consultaion.