Appreciate the Journey

Barbara Vey -- April 20th, 2012
Dan BlankDan Blank

My friend Dan Blank shared a sweet and inspirational post on his blog today. Here is an excerpt:

We rush.

Moving towards our goals.

We write our books.

Craft our songs.

We pursue our creative journey.

Push our foot down a little more on the gas pedal, hoping to shave off another 5 minutes from the trip.

We envision what it will be like when we arrive.

We tell ourselves stories of the future, becoming blind to the present moment.

We work harder, and dance less frequently.

We struggle, we wait for the “payoff” down the road.

As I work with writers, trying hard to find an agent, get a book deal, and establish an audience, I am reminded.

As I take a walk with my 1.5 year old son, I am reminded.

Appreciate the journey.

It goes on and I encourage you to read Dan’s entire post here.


Andrew age 5

Andrew age 5

This is not just for authors, but for all of us.  I’m in Atlanta today to spend the weekend with my son for his 30th birthday.  30th Birthday!  When did this happen?  How did 30 years pass me by?  I clearly remember the day he was born.  I remember the day he took his first step, said his first word, lost his first tooth, kissed his first girlfriend (that I know about), got his driver’s license, graduated from high and college.  But I also remember the many times I said, “Hurry up, we’ve got to move along, don’t dawdled.”


I’m not sure I dawdled enough.  There are too many times I wish I could go back and hug loved ones a little longer, enjoyed a family moment a little longer, laughed with friends a little longer.  Obviously, I can’t, but what I can do is think about what Dan said and “appreciate what is.  Not what could have been.”


Bottom Line:  Here’s to appreciating the journey!!


150 thoughts on “Appreciate the Journey

  1. Marilyn

    Amen! My “baby” turned 29 last week and his brother will be 34 later this year. How? I’m trying to appreciate the journey more, especially since I have a grandchild and another on the way. I spent last weekend with #1 son, his wife and daughter and had a fabulous time.

    Have fun with Andrew!

  2. Dianna Love

    Well put. I’m disappointed to watch writers who struggle for years to reach their goal only to become disenchanted once they get there. And that’s not just with writers, but with anyone who has gotten what they want then six months to a year later – they aren’t happy.

    Happy Birthday Andrew!! You got a great family. :)

  3. SuzzyPC


    Thanks for the post. Always a good reminder. “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” (attributed to John Lennon) So true. I hope you have a great birthday weekend w/ your son.

  4. Heathermac

    Thank you for the great advice! It’s something that is very easy to forget. Enjoy the birthday celebrations. I cross the bridge to 30 in November….can’t believe. Time just seems to zoom right on by.

  5. Debbie Kaufman

    Aw! My second child turns 30 this year. Such a milestone. With each of my four, I wish I’d taken more time on the journey. Thanks for sharing this and have a lovely weekend with Andrew!

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